Stop Being a Martyr

I can honestly say that I know a lot about being a martyr because I have played that role in my life and it does nothing but allow one to engage in activities and behavior that is not part of who you really are. I am glad to say that this is all past me now and I enjoy a more relaxed life where I can delegate and say no without the guilt trip. I just remember and know there is always a fine line of sorts that can draw one back into playing another martyr role, but let strength prevail. Needless to say, we all make sacrifices and trade-offs and that’s totally different. A high percentage of the time these sacrifices are well worth it, but too much in most things is still too much. Understandably, the tolerance levels to responsibility, stress, lack of sleep and sacrifice does vary from person to person. In other words, what task is easy for one person may be extremely difficult for another. What is of importance is to pay attention to, and be honest about your feelings because each of us knows what we can handle to a certain extent. We know this because we start to feel agitated and frustrated and ultimately resentful. When we get to this point, the self-righteousness sets in and we convince ourselves that we are working harder than anyone else on the planet.

The ultimate truth is that no one really benefits or appreciates a martyr. Trust me, I know, a martyr is his or hers worst enemy because you are constantly filling your head with thoughts of things that you need or must do for everyone else. This behavior only leads to one believing that life is difficult, yet you are the only one causing it and thinking that way. Why mentally ambush yourself and sap all the joy and fun out of your life for nothing? Yes it’s time to turn a new page in life because all the people around you only see you as an overly serious and frustrated complainer. Think about this for a moment; The people who you are always doing for get so use to it that they take you for granted and do not feel sorry for you when you are so self-absorbed in pity. Stop wasting your life being a martyr for everyone else if you think you have martyr tendencies. Let others do for themselves because most of the time, they are able to, but it’s alright to help every once in a while. Start doing more for yourself by picking up a hobby or taking a class at a local college. Your loved ones and all others close to you will appreciate you more and stop seeing you as an unhappy and frustrated person.